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Tuesday 24 April 2012

Have You Really Got a Crystal Ball...Or Are You Just Making Assumptions?



If you came to me  feeling down on yourself because you`ve been rejected without a full explanation...be it from a job application, promotion, a relationship, coffee with a friend...the part in the school play, the football team, I `d probably surprise you with this question... “Well, are you psychic?” Because unless you have a crystal  ball, there`s no way you will know the REAL reason you were rejected.

Don`t you agree that we all like to mind-read?; “they think I’m unattractive, annoying, a loser, they don’t like me because I’m too THIS or I’m not enough THAT.” But one thing is common – these are all ASSUMPTIONS. And when it comes to rejection, we usually make assumptions that make us feel worse.
Of course there are ALL sorts of reasons we get rejected or turned down. Maybe we were rejected because someone was tired and wanted to stay home. Or they’re stressed and can’t give us the benefit of the doubt today. Maybe they’re jaded and find our enthusiasm a painful reminder of how they used to be. Maybe they feel threatened by us and prefer the company of someone less challenging for them. Maybe they DON’T find us attractive. Maybe they’re incapable of reading between the lines and/or giving us the job based on our capacity to learn rather than our experience. But whatever it is, it’s all about the OTHER person, what they think and feel. The rejection is never about us.

Remember that time you didn’t hear back from someone, and you thought they didn’t like you or that you’d upset them? Then remember how it turned out they were away, had some family crisis, lost your number or never got your email because their computer crashed?

Sooooo.....when you notice yourself making negative assumptions (also known as mind-reading) when it comes to WHY you were rejected, ask yourself “How do I KNOW that to be true? What PROOF do I have?  Am I Psychic?”
Then if you really INSIST on making assumptions, why not  find a REFRAME and make your assumptions POSITIVE. After all, if you’re going to make assumptions, why NOT make them to your advantage? How about... I got rejected because:

- I am too gorgeous, I am too much fun, I’m over-qualified, I am clearly too helpful for that organization!



Soooo.. Create Time For Your Life Today.....Become aware when you find yourself  making assumptions. Then, if you insist on making assumptions, why not have some fun with them and assume the best?



Friday 13 April 2012

Fancy a new job?


How to Tune Your Mind To Your Success Frequency!!

Using creative visualisation isn’t exactly as easy as using your ipod – but it’s not rocket science either. There are lots of ways you can start, depending on what you like to do. Sooo...Why not Create Time for Your Life and Try the following...



  • If you think in lines, you could start with a timeline of events. Would you like a new job? Why not start by creating a private, quiet space to begin. Calm your mind, breathe deep, and if you can, get yourself into a relaxed state. Then let a story unfold in your mind.. Use as much detail as possible. 
  • .....In your story,maybe you’re in your favourite cafe, when you run into a friend who introduces you to someone looking for a new employee with exactly your skills … Keep going with this story, a little bit every day for about 10 days, until you find yourself sitting  (in your mind’s eye) at your new desk, then shopping with your new salary!
  • If you’re a visual person, you can start with some art supplies. Maybe you want to paint, draw or make a collage of the improvements you’re aiming for, then look at it every day before and after a quiet time of visualisation.
  • If you’re more of a word person, you may want to start with writing down or speaking your goals out loud before each visualisation period.
When you add creative visualization to your daily routine – even just 10 minutes – it’s like tuning into your own personal inspiration station. 
Sooo... Go on Try it – and let me know how you like tuning your mind to your success frequency!

Wednesday 4 April 2012

Happy Foods = Happy You!!


A nutritious, balanced diet is the key to good health and longevity.. But did you know that some foods actually enhance mood and help maintain those all - important feel-good vibes?!! 



Soooo.....Eating for happiness - as well as your health - should be your primary goal!!

To obtain the sustenance you need, include the following foods in your diet...

1. Foods high in Omega 3..i.e. oily fish, nuts, flax seeds. Omega 3 has been scientifically proven to reduce depression and increase happiness. Try also to take a daily supplement too but dont over do it!!
2. Foods rich in tryptophan.. i.e. lobster, turkey, pineapple, tofu, bananas. Tryptophan is converted by the body into the feel-good chemical serotonin, which increases your well-being
3. Foods with plenty of amino-acids..i.e. chicken, turkey fish, cheese, cottage cheese, eggs, nuts, milk, pulses, bananas, avocados wheat germ and legumes. These foods help maintain correct amino acid levels, essential in balancing your mood
4. Foods which raise vitamin B levels..i.e. spinach, peas, orange juice, wheat germ or avocado. Solid vitamin B levels help safeguard yourself against depression
5. Whole grains such as oats, quinoa or brown rice contain B vitamins to ensure the slow release of sugars needed to maintain well being
6. Carbohydrates, such as cereals, rice, pasta and starchy vegetables provide slow energy release to maintain a balanced metabolism
7. Regular “energy snacks” such as fruit, cereal, seeds and nuts help maintain energy levels and good mood throughout the day.

TIP : Instead of reading this and then popping it in the bin...why not print it out and stick it on your fridge and keep a copy as a basis for your shopping list!! 

Remember .....reading it might make you feel better for a few minutes but actually eating the food will do you far more good!!



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Monday 2 April 2012

Do You Have The Right Mindset for Success?

What Do You Think Is the Best Way to Increase Your Chances of Success?

Two people who are looking to achieve the same goal, can often be approaching it with entirely different "Mindsets"... A Mindset is the way we look out at the world and process information.

Did you know that we all have very different mindsets...ways of thinking about the goals we are pursuing and ways of looking at the world around us..  However...it is a fact that we can change our Mindsets based on the way we choose to look at the world and there are some mindsets that are particularly useful in helping us reach our goals and be more successful!


Soooo.....Do You Have the "Be Great" Mindset or the "Getting Better" Mindset?

The "Be Great" Mindset is what you think about when you are trying "to prove yourself"...you are trying to prove to yourself or others that you have "ability"....that you are already "clever".. that you are already "creative" that you are already "talented" and that you have what it takes to succeed!!

However, in the "Getting Better" Mindset, you can be pursuing the same goals but you will think about a goal as an "opportunity" to improve your abilities..  Therefore you are thinking about it in terms not of "proving yourself" but in terms of "improving yourself"!! In other words in terms of getting better and making progress over a period of time..

For example...two people in the same job or in the same classroom can look like they are pursuing the same goal but one of them is really thinking about what they are doing in terms of proving they "are clever" and the other one is thinking in terms of "getting cleverer"..


The "Getting Better Mindset" is tremendously adaptive... because people who think about themselves in terms of improvement of "getting better over time"...find that they enjoy what they are doing more... they are far more  motivated and  they persist longer...


People with the "Be Great Mindset" are much less adaptable and deal with difficulties in a far less adaptive way..They are far more vulnerable when things get difficult because when you are trying to "Be Great" and things get difficult,  it s very easy for you to conclude that you are "not great"...that you dont have what it takes and that you lack ability..

Therefore, the "Be Great" Mindset can lead to a lot of Anxiety and a feeling of Helplessness... when things get challenging.. It can also undermine intrinsic motivation because when you are so focussed on getting validation from other people, it feels controlling and it undermines your interest and enjoyment in what you are doing.

However, if you take on the "Getting Better Mindset", you will find that you will steadily improve,  do better and find your goals enjoyable, rewarding and engaging...

Sooooo.... what Mindset Are You going to Create For Your Life?  Are you going to "Be Great" or are you going to be "Getting Better"?

The Choice is Yours!

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