Do you get stuck like me in a place of fear sometimes?

Do you get stuck in a place of fear sometimes?  I do...When I am stuck in fear ...My life feels small, constrained and  I hold my breath and foresee every “worst case scenario” possible. I view the world from the lenses of All or Nothing. This doesn't happen often nowadays but it lurks there in the shadows popping out now and then..

I go through phases which reflect a new "dance with fear".  This was a dance that I thought I once mastered years ago, only to find myself sometimes feeling at the new “beginners” level again.

If like me you sometimes are in this "phase" you ll note that many of your actions and decisions are made out of fear and you do everything in your power not to show how you are feeling...

At times we become a great crisis manager and caretaker. We avoid asking for what We want out of fear of not getting it and feeling disappointed. 

If this resonates with you.. It s time to come to terms with understanding that fear is “False Evidence Appearing Real” and that You have the power to surrender and embrace a new story.

Learn to do the Fear dance while walking through each fear with courage, willingness and awareness.

Accept that you will have to repeat this process as fear never goes away.

Fear serves as a reminder whether We are on the right direction going towards our dreams or not...

Sometimes fear is the distraction or the obstacle that We have to overcome to go from point A to point C.

Hopefully like me your life is in a place of "creation full of uncertainty."

Accept that the fear dance is not composed of extraordinary actions and peak experience. 

This dance is about consistent, bite size actions that are far from sexy. It’s about continuing to keep the focus back on what You need, where You need to keep going and moving your feet in the right direction.

 

So... How to get moving and start dancing?

1) Breathe. Yes, really go ahead and TAKE A DEEP Breathe. Sigh. Breathe again. Your breath calms your body down. Better yet it turns your fear into excitement.

2) Write it down. What situation is causing you feel the fear? What feelings are getting trigger? 

One thing I have learned  about fear is that it hates every time you shed light on it because it makes it smaller.

 If you are brave enough, share your fears with a trusted un-bias person (sponsor, therapist, coach, etc).

3) Break it down to manageable pieces. What is that you need to get done? Where do you find yourself in a place of resistance? Fear hates action/movement.

Break down the actions to  5 – 10 minute actions that you can take. Just do one per day. Trust me this will serve as the energizer to push through the resistance.

4) Practice thinking the best if yourself..don’t know about you but I can be my own worst enemy. 

5) Accept that you are right where you need to be.

Create a great day and if you are feeling awesome and don't need to do the "Fear"  Dance today...Dance anyway!!

Self Help a Stress Reduction Tool

Holding yourself or someone else up for too long causes stress..learn to let go...look after you!

A therapist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the “half empty or half full”question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: “How heavy is this glass of water?”

Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.

She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.”

She continued, “The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything.”

Want to lower your stress? Remember to lower that glass!