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Wednesday 18 March 2015

What Is Success?

What is Success?

Thursday 5 March 2015

Give the Gift of Listening

Do you listen to reply or listen to ignite?

Most of us are always thinking about what we are going to say next whilst we are listening!!!



However when we know someone is not going to interrupt us it frees us to truly think for ourselves.. 

So why not give the gift of listening to someone today!

Give Your 
Attention

Do you watch for holes, a pause, perhaps an intake of breath, in fact the slightest hint of the other person being finished just so you can jump in? 

Until I became a coach I was really guilty of this. In fact I have to watch myself all the time especially when over-excited on a social occasion!!! 

My friends and family will agree totally here!

Feeling the need to speak and butt-in can be because "just listening" can make you feel like you are not being a leader!! 

However the more we listen, the more empowerment we give to others. 

It makes the speaker feel that what they are saying is worthwhile....and by continuing to listen we are saying that what they going to say next is even more interesting and  worthwhile ...therefore you are giving them the gift of confidence in theirselves and allowing them to be creative and inspired.

As professional listeners ...we matter deeply ..because we don't actually matter at all! It is all about our clients. Helping them to have the space to really feel able to express their ideas freely.

Could you try this today:

Decide that unless you have a dire emergency you will not interrupt someone you are talking to?


When someone be it a colleague or friend gets stuck and feels they don't have the right answers ask them this..

If you knew for sure you were thought of and that you indeed are intelligent, good, beautiful, creative, inspired and that I am here for you.. What thoughts would you have next?

Then stay 100 % focussed on content response and the thinking environment you are providing them! 
What a gift that truly is.

This doesn't just work in the professional world...if you have children it is a wonderful tool:

Each day when you are with your child.. turn off everything and just listen..just be available and your child will soon talk..
and when they talk.. Listen and listen and listen

You can't go back to their childhood and listen.. They are gone!!

Create a great day today!

Vivien Black is a Personal Development Coach at http://createtimeforyourlife.com

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