1)Do you find that you spend too much time looking BACK on past failures?
2) Do you find yourself PANICKING and feeling an overwhelming sense of uncertainty when facing CHANGE?
3)Do you tend to spend more time AVOIDING, running away from or hiding from FEAR?
4) When you are worried do you tend to DISTRACT yourself and not face it?
5) Do you become as OSTRICH when things aren't going well?
6) Do you fight and RESIST fear?
7) Does worry about the FUTURE lock you into your own private hell of endless “WHAT IFS” or “WHAT NEXTS” ?
8) When you feel AFRAID OF FAILURE do you start hedging bets or planning EXITS?
9) Do you procrastinate about making decisions if you are UNSURE of the outcome?
10)Are you constantly worrying about the FUTURE unable to stay PRESENT in life as it is right NOW?
11)Do you make EXCUSES or find reasons not to follow through on new OPPORTUNITES?
12)Do you constantly look to the PAST before being able to make decisions in the PRESENT?
13)Do you struggle TRUSTING your partner in relationships BOTH personal and in business?
Sooo.....What Do YOU Do When You Feel AFRAID?
a) Do you fall into the fetal position, FROZEN by THE FEAR OF FAILURE?
b) Do you try to avoid feeling fear by PRETENDING IT S NOT HAPPENING?
c) Are you the kind of person who gets ANNOYED AT EVERYONE in your way, determined to FIGHT your way through your fear?
Well in actual fact, it really doesn’t matter WHAT you do when you feel afraid...because......
Your RESISTANCE Only Serves To BUILD On Fear’s PERSISTANCE!
Sooo.....Let me explain by asking you one quick question...
Have you ever REALLY thought about what it costs you to play all these little cat and mouse games with fear?
(I’m not talking about the fear of heights, clowns, small spaces, spiders or other phobias which although they’re all VERY real.... these are NOT the fears that keep you from the life your heart knows you deserve!)
The fears I’m talking about, are every day little worries that creep up on you.
At first they seem harmless. Then they keep coming and coming.
Soon it's a full on ASSAULT - stalking you CONSTANTLY - minute by minute, day by day, slowly hijacking your life!
The problem is - you dont even realise it's even happening..
Until..... it's too late...
And you end up with FEAR as Your Constant Companion
!
It doesn’t matter if you choose to avoid, ignore, deny or fight your fear - it’s still there with you EVERY single day... whether you know it or not!
SOOOO.......Don't you think it's become a little too easy for you to blame your problems on YOURSELF?
By this I mean saying to yourself things like...
I can't get a new job because I am "UNMOTIVATED".
I can't lose that last stone because "I AM EXHAUSTED”
I can't find the courage to go on a date because "I AM TOO SHY".
Or maybe you're even are harder on yourself with thoughts like "I'M DEPRESSED",
"I'M LAZY" or "THAT S JUST NOT ME!!
”
And guess what - it's COMPLETE AND UTTER RUBBISH!!!
But more than that......
It's TRAGIC...
Yes - it's a complete TRAGEDY that you believe any of this NONSENSE about you!
As if the REAL you could EVER be anything but AMAZING!!!!!!!!!!
FEAR is nothing more than a BULLY holding your happiness in a tight grip
Soooooo......dont let it CONTROL you every single day..
Have you ever wanted something so BADLY you would've SWAPPED almost anything to have it, then all of a sudden, for no reason, it gets TAKEN AWAY FROM YOU!!
Devastated by DEFEAT you don't even really hear the tiny voice of fear whisper quietly, "I told you so! This is what happens when you put yourself out there. You know you aren't GOOD enough and don't DESERVE these type of things - why do you EVEN try?"
Meanwhile you barely notice DEPRESSION and ANXIETY sneaking up on you.....
Or....have you ever been so afraid to be ALONE that you stayed in an emotionally abusive relationship - dying to leave but terrified you'll never find someone who will really love you...
Do you sometimes feel like you're trapped in a HOLE you can't dig yourself out of every time you stress out on how to make ends meet this month?
As the pounds disappear from your bank account, your CONFIDENCE crumbles!
Well....take note.....
YOU Are NOT Your Fear!!
The truth is you're LYING to yourself if you see you as anything but AMAZING!!
Soooo.....If you can't see the TRUTH of who you are, you MUST change your filter NOW!
Before it's too late...
Before your dreams disappear...
Soooo.....Before you GIVE up, calling yourself nothing but a lost cause - you must know the truth!
....
You don't have to "FIGHT" fear - because...there’s NOTHING to “BEAT”...
.
All you need to do is learn to play the game with a different set of rules starting with knowing fear is NOT a filter for truth - it's only a pathway to CHANGE.
Fear can actually HELP you as long as you know how to separate WHO you are from WHAT you're feeling - they are NOT the same thing!
To do this, you must step up by OPENING your eyes.
And you must start actively PARTICIPATING in your life.
Because if you dont, you will continue to let your fear define, defeat or even worse CONTROL you...
Soooooo......What if you could see your fear as nothing more than a mind supported global positioning system (GPS) like you use in your car?
Now let's pretend this GPS system is PERSONALIZED with your BELIEFS and VALUES - giving you the best navigation system EVER built - for your LIFE!!.
(Wouldnt that be great!!)
Well guess what?...that's all FEAR IS SUPPOSED TO BE - your PERSONAL GPS!
Feelings of fear are actually designed to HELP you - to steer you back on track.
Fear is simply trying to say......
" This is important! Are you really UP to this because I don't know where you're going all of a sudden - I'm not sure we can DO this. Maybe we should turn around and go home?"
It begins a CAMPAIGN designed to CONVINCE you by REMINDING you of all the times you've FAILED in the PAST because you weren't good enough.
And what do we do??? We believe it!
We
actually let fear terrorise our minds into thinking we should swim back SAFELY to shore - to the SAFETY of what we know.
But there's only one problem...
Your current beach front property isnt working out for you is it?
(Which is probably why you were trying a new approach in the first place.)
So there you are ...... trying to make a change while fear is SCREAMING in your face, "No change! CHANGE is SCARY!! I'm not sure we can handle change!
"
Your mind grabs onto this fear frequency - not sure if it's up to the task -and it uses your FEAR to talk you into going back to the "comfort" zone.
You see the STRANGE thing is that our mind doesn't care if staying put means you'll continue to be alone, broke or despondent!
(Especially if your belief system says that's what you deserve.).
It just wants to do what's EASY.
TRY and
think about it like this...
Have you ever used a GPS to get you to your destination and left the planned route because there's an accident or just bad traffic?
As the GPS voice harps at you to make a u-turn back to the guided route, do you do it?
No. You're CONFIDENT in your choice.
You just think, "Yeah, yeah, I know I'm off track - but I REALLY DO know how to get there.
Well....that's all FEAR is supposed to do...it's there to GUIDE you - that's it!
It s just like the annoying voice in your car... keeping you on track.
Your fear signals to you when a pathway of real CHANGE has been opened up right in front of you.
Resisting, avoiding or fighting fear only serves as a.DISTRACTION!
By giving fear ENERGY you are choosing to give it the ENERGY from YOUR LIFE
- until you’re nothing but an empty shell of your true potential1
Think about it...
Is it really laziness or a lack of motivation that keeps you from the job you want or the date of your dreams...
Or is it the FEAR of REJECTION?
Do you sabotage the growth you so desperately desire because you can't make DECISIONS...?
Or is it because you're AFRAID to make the wrong one - terrified to FAIL?
Are you trapped in old shattered patterns that stopped serving you long ago because you hate CHANGE...
Or do you believe this is as good as it gets and it's all you deserve?
I don't know which one applies to you - maybe all of them...
But I DO know keeping fear as your constant companion - in any capacity - means you're basically handing over the keys to your life, making it impossible for you to embrace new POSSIBILITES!
Soooooo.....Imagine USING FEAR AS YOU OWN PERSONAL CRYSTAL BALL ......
The crystal ball is guiding you towards the best possibilities for your best life..
.
IMAGINE feeling that first flutter of fear...and SMILING.!!!
That's right - can you imagine WELCOMING FEAR with the open arms AND feeling glad that you're MOVING - GROWING and making progress...
Can you imagine if you could really use the POWER of fear to free yourself up?
Sooo..... this time with COMPASSION and empathy for YOU, look back to your own life and ask yourself these questions.....
Is the FEAR OF FAILURE keeping you from the financial freedom you deserve?
Is the fear of being laughed at, or ending up worse off than you are right NOW holding you back from finding your true vocation or soul mate?
Are you exhausted by constantly trying to avoid or eliminate your fears?
Is the stress of “FIGHTING” through it beginning to take it's toll on your soul?
Then STOP!!!!
-
RESISTING fear is the number one reason you're not succeeding!
You can stop the madness and change everything if you quit RESISTING!!
Sooo......
Are you finally ready to...
Tap into the POWER of your fears and transform your life into a world of freedom, fulfillment and UNLIMITED happiness....
Let fear lead you to a new possibility and potential, EVERY time.
Welcome CHANGE as an OPPORTUNITY for GROWTH.
Ride the wave to break through to an AMAZING YOU!
Well why not CREATE TIME FOR YOUR LIFE and take the first steps TODAY...
Take a look at all these ideas closely...
And remember.... .if you have difficulty with changing the way you THINK or you would like some help in moving forwards....talk to a life coach....we can really help.....
Monday, 5 September 2011
Thursday, 25 August 2011
Find Out How Happy You Are! Answer these questions........
What do you think your main purpose in life is :
a) To be all that you can be
b) To make as much money as you can
c) To be useful
d) To be compassionate
e) To look as good as you can
f) To matter
g) To love and be loved
h) To count
i) To be at the top of your field
j)To stand for something
k)To be powerful
l)To have made some difference that you lived at all!
Do YOU believe that:
a)reaching your goals and manifesting your dreams will bring you happiness OR
b)that community, service to others or making a difference are required for personal happiness.
Did money, fame, possessions and status bring Amy Winehouse, Michael Jackson and Elvis happiness? Or did seeking power bring some of the worlds nameless leaders CLOSER to their people or make them hated and persecuted?
What do YOU think about the following statements?
a )Happiness is a combination of meaning and pleasure. We need what we’re experiencing to be meaningful.”
b) Being content requires living from within, putting more focus on personal values, and loving others.
c) Happiness is more about internal qualities than external stuff.
d) It’s more about inclusion than separation.
Wouldn´t you agree that happiness isn’t something you search for or go after, it’s a moment by moment decision you make. Anyone can become a happier person because happiness begets happiness. .
Sooo... Why not CREATE TIME FOR YOUR LIFE and make your own intentional choices!!
Each morning tell yourself, “I’m happy today.”
Take daily responsibility for your own happiness
Try making a conscious decision to enjoy the next 24 hours, then the next, and the next.
If nothing else ever changes in your life, know that in spite of EVERYTHING, you can be happy.
Sooo.......Make a commitment to happiness, be happy now!
How good are you at self-acceptance?
Try and admire your uniqueness. Appreciate your magnificent talents and enormous wisdom and use them to make the world a better place. Stop chasing happiness.
When you quit stressing about a better job, a bigger home, a SMALLER body, then your own joy will bubble to the surface.
Remember: Happiness isn’t something you chase or become in a distant future. Happiness is all that you are right now.
Invest in your Family...
The best investment you can make is in the relationships you have with your family, friends, colleagues, and community.
Soooo.....Communicate. Spend time together. Participate in volunteering, a feel-good activity. As you enrich the lives of others you enrich your own. Strong connections to others increases your OWN well- being. Chasing happiness causes you to miss the happiness right under your nose. Why not extend love to others today. Notice how good it makes you feel!!
Do you practice living in a state of appreciation?
Learning to be grateful throughout the day will change the way you interpret life. It changes your brain and opens your heart.
Sooo.....Write down your grattitude list and help solidify it in your brain.The MORE you express gratitude, the more you find to be grateful for. Happiness isn’t acquiring something or in some fun event. Gratitude is found in the present moment and then happiness FOLLOWS!
Try dropping grievances and resentments...
FORGIVING is giving up being a victim. It turns ‘poor me’ into ‘free me.’ We create our own suffering, stress, and misery by our need to be right. When we hold on to resentment, we can miss the PRESENT by reliving stories of the past. Happiness lives in a loving heart and a healed past.
Sooooo......Decide to see things DIFFERENTLY.
Don’t worry about HOW to forgive, instead CHOOSE to be a forgiving person!
Enjoy your life.
CREATE TIME FOR YOUR LIFE to ENJOY doing the things you love. Don’t allow the pursuit of a dream spoil your time to play and have fun.
Soooo.... Be spontaneous, lighten up and laugh. UNTIE yourself from technology. Leave your electronics at home. NEVER underestimate the power of creating good times for yourself. Get connected. Get to KNOW what inspires YOU and supports YOU
Soooo... How about getting strength from a daily Spiritual practice. You could draw, meditate, sing, write, spend time in nature or do yoga. When we feel Connected and Grounded, we rush less, do less, and desire LESS. We become happy with our lives exactly how it is in THIS moment.
Spiritual happiness allows you to squeeze all the joy you possibly can out of everyday. There is no OTHER time, there is no OTHER place.
soooo......find happiness right here, right now.
Celebrate your life.
Celebrate your everyday growth and progress. Validate yourself by being your own cheerleader and tooting your own horn.!!!!
Sooo... RECOGNIZE your accomplishments big and small. Don’t wait or rely on the approval of others. Celebrate that you have your basic needs met. You are worthy of all life has to offer. Know it, own it, celebrate it!
Life as they say is not a dress- rehearsal....This is the main event!!
Sooo...... participate in it FULLY!!!
Researchers have found that people are happier being with others, than being alone. When we are with others, we become more alive, social, and care-free. In turn others want to be with us and near us.
Sooo..... As a result, happiness spirals Upwards.
I’m all for that..... you coming along for the ride?
a) To be all that you can be
b) To make as much money as you can
c) To be useful
e) To look as good as you can
f) To matter
g) To love and be loved
h) To count
i) To be at the top of your field
j)To stand for something
k)To be powerful
l)To have made some difference that you lived at all!
Do YOU believe that:
a)reaching your goals and manifesting your dreams will bring you happiness OR
b)that community, service to others or making a difference are required for personal happiness.
Did money, fame, possessions and status bring Amy Winehouse, Michael Jackson and Elvis happiness? Or did seeking power bring some of the worlds nameless leaders CLOSER to their people or make them hated and persecuted?
What do YOU think about the following statements?
a )Happiness is a combination of meaning and pleasure. We need what we’re experiencing to be meaningful.”
b) Being content requires living from within, putting more focus on personal values, and loving others.
c) Happiness is more about internal qualities than external stuff.
d) It’s more about inclusion than separation.
Wouldn´t you agree that happiness isn’t something you search for or go after, it’s a moment by moment decision you make. Anyone can become a happier person because happiness begets happiness. .
Sooo... Why not CREATE TIME FOR YOUR LIFE and make your own intentional choices!!
Each morning tell yourself, “I’m happy today.”
Take daily responsibility for your own happiness
Try making a conscious decision to enjoy the next 24 hours, then the next, and the next.
If nothing else ever changes in your life, know that in spite of EVERYTHING, you can be happy.
Sooo.......Make a commitment to happiness, be happy now!
How good are you at self-acceptance?
Try and admire your uniqueness. Appreciate your magnificent talents and enormous wisdom and use them to make the world a better place. Stop chasing happiness.
When you quit stressing about a better job, a bigger home, a SMALLER body, then your own joy will bubble to the surface.
Remember: Happiness isn’t something you chase or become in a distant future. Happiness is all that you are right now.
Invest in your Family...
The best investment you can make is in the relationships you have with your family, friends, colleagues, and community.
Soooo.....Communicate. Spend time together. Participate in volunteering, a feel-good activity. As you enrich the lives of others you enrich your own. Strong connections to others increases your OWN well- being. Chasing happiness causes you to miss the happiness right under your nose. Why not extend love to others today. Notice how good it makes you feel!!
Do you practice living in a state of appreciation?
Learning to be grateful throughout the day will change the way you interpret life. It changes your brain and opens your heart.
Sooo.....Write down your grattitude list and help solidify it in your brain.The MORE you express gratitude, the more you find to be grateful for. Happiness isn’t acquiring something or in some fun event. Gratitude is found in the present moment and then happiness FOLLOWS!
Try dropping grievances and resentments...
FORGIVING is giving up being a victim. It turns ‘poor me’ into ‘free me.’ We create our own suffering, stress, and misery by our need to be right. When we hold on to resentment, we can miss the PRESENT by reliving stories of the past. Happiness lives in a loving heart and a healed past.
Sooooo......Decide to see things DIFFERENTLY.
Don’t worry about HOW to forgive, instead CHOOSE to be a forgiving person!
Enjoy your life.
CREATE TIME FOR YOUR LIFE to ENJOY doing the things you love. Don’t allow the pursuit of a dream spoil your time to play and have fun.
Soooo.... Be spontaneous, lighten up and laugh. UNTIE yourself from technology. Leave your electronics at home. NEVER underestimate the power of creating good times for yourself. Get connected. Get to KNOW what inspires YOU and supports YOU
Soooo... How about getting strength from a daily Spiritual practice. You could draw, meditate, sing, write, spend time in nature or do yoga. When we feel Connected and Grounded, we rush less, do less, and desire LESS. We become happy with our lives exactly how it is in THIS moment.
Spiritual happiness allows you to squeeze all the joy you possibly can out of everyday. There is no OTHER time, there is no OTHER place.
soooo......find happiness right here, right now.
Celebrate your life.
Celebrate your everyday growth and progress. Validate yourself by being your own cheerleader and tooting your own horn.!!!!
Sooo... RECOGNIZE your accomplishments big and small. Don’t wait or rely on the approval of others. Celebrate that you have your basic needs met. You are worthy of all life has to offer. Know it, own it, celebrate it!
Life as they say is not a dress- rehearsal....This is the main event!!
Sooo...... participate in it FULLY!!!
Researchers have found that people are happier being with others, than being alone. When we are with others, we become more alive, social, and care-free. In turn others want to be with us and near us. Sooo..... As a result, happiness spirals Upwards.
I’m all for that..... you coming along for the ride?
Wednesday, 17 August 2011
DO YOU FIND CLEANING A CHORE AND A BORE?? (gentlemen this is for you TOO!!)
Wouldn´t you agree that everyone would rather do ANYTHING at all EXCEPT clean the house!! Time spent cleaning feels like time WASTED that could be used doing something MORE fun.!! When cleaning is viewed as a CHORE AND A BORE - instead of as an ASPECT of family life, the person stuck with cleaning can end up feeling imprisoned!!
Soooo.. Why not CREATE TIME FOR YOUR LIFE .. and spend some time deciding what you HATE about cleaning and then use these tips to EMBRACE housecleaning as something that can become a good HABIT!
Cleaning supplies!
Keep a LARGE supply of QUALITY cleaning solutions that work well and can be used CONSISTENTLY. Purchase sponges, cloths, brushes, dusters, and a vacuum cleaner that are sturdy and will last for years. Buying good QUALITY supplies will get rid of one FRUSTRATING aspect of cleaning the house.
Storage
Designate certain areas for items that are used MOST OFTEN. When EVERY item has its proper place, cleaning is EASIER and the home appears to be well-maintained. Teach the children (AND YOUR PARTNER FOR THAT MATTER!) where their toys, books, and clothes MUST be kept and ENCOURAGE them to participate in putting things away.
Bite-sized tasks
One major reason cited for not cleaning the house is the THOUGHT of the OVERWHELMING tasks that must be completed. Sooo....break down EVERY task into manageable steps that can be completed in smaller increments of time. When other MORE APPEALING activities must be postponed to clean the house, it´s the CLEANING which will be delayed and go unfinished!!
Daily routine
Tidy up the area near the television as FAMILY activity at the end of each day.!! When everyone takes their OWN belongings out of the room and puts them away, the room is ready for the next use. Working TOGETHER to clean this room will build POSTIVE maintenance habits that will spread to other areas of the house.
Final task of each activity
At the end of a meal, clean up the kitchen so that the area is clean for the next use. Whenever a CRAFT project is completed, clean the area and put everything away. At the end of EACH day, hang up jackets, put away toys, and throw away the junk that is lying around DONT HOARD THINGS!!. The house will appear clean in the morning as the family is getting ready to greet the day.
Weekly routine
Designate one or two hours EACH day to completing some tasks. Instead of using ALL of Saturday to complete the cleaning, set up a cleaning SCHEDULE where each room is cleaned every week. Choose a day to address each child’s room. Designate another day to clean the bathrooms.. When small areas receive attention EACH day, the ENTIRE house will be cleaned each week without using weekend time.
Help from others
Some MAJOR tasks require help from family members and others require some PROFESSIONAL cleaning assistance. Hire someone to clean the carpet throughout the home or at least hire a MACHINE!! Designate two Saturdays each year to clean and straighten the garage and then throw a party at the end of the day to reward everyone.(preferably in the garden!!)
Incremental progress
Initial efforts to establish a cleaning schedule will be probably be met with some RESISTANCE, but each SUCCESSIVE week of cleaning WILL result in progress. PERSEVERE with the new schedule and notice that each week the chores are taking less time. As you notice areas that need improved, the house will become cleaner with less effort.
Fun is required!
Listen to your favourite music, an audio book, or a great radio program while completing the cleaning chores. Passing the time while listening to some music will help EVERYONE to remember that cleaning CAN be seasoned with FUN!
No Excuses!
RESIST the urge to let yourself avoid the cleaning chores for even ONE day. The life of a family is greatly IMPROVED when the house is not cluttered and dirty. PROCRASTINATION only causes stress!! Break down each chore and decide to spend some time EVERY day working through the clutter and cleaning at least ONE area. When EVERY family member participates in cleaning the house, each person becomes more AWARE of the EFFORT required to manage the home.
BATTLES over putting everything away will be eliminated when cleaning takes less time each week. TODDLERS learn quickly and what do TODDLERS turn into? They turn into CHILDREN who will realise that keeping their own belongings put away will result in LESS time to clean their rooms later. Giving the CHILDREN a good example of maintaining a clean home will HELP THEM and YOU when they become TEENAGERS and they WILL understand later that you have given them a lifelong gift which they will appreciate as adults!!!
Sooooo... What are you waiting for? WRITE YOUR SCHEDULE, TURN UP THE MUSIC AND GET CRACKING!!!
IT´s NEVER too late!!! (and teenagers can always be BRIBED!!)
Soooo.. Why not CREATE TIME FOR YOUR LIFE .. and spend some time deciding what you HATE about cleaning and then use these tips to EMBRACE housecleaning as something that can become a good HABIT!
Cleaning supplies!
Keep a LARGE supply of QUALITY cleaning solutions that work well and can be used CONSISTENTLY. Purchase sponges, cloths, brushes, dusters, and a vacuum cleaner that are sturdy and will last for years. Buying good QUALITY supplies will get rid of one FRUSTRATING aspect of cleaning the house.
Storage
Designate certain areas for items that are used MOST OFTEN. When EVERY item has its proper place, cleaning is EASIER and the home appears to be well-maintained. Teach the children (AND YOUR PARTNER FOR THAT MATTER!) where their toys, books, and clothes MUST be kept and ENCOURAGE them to participate in putting things away.
Bite-sized tasks
One major reason cited for not cleaning the house is the THOUGHT of the OVERWHELMING tasks that must be completed. Sooo....break down EVERY task into manageable steps that can be completed in smaller increments of time. When other MORE APPEALING activities must be postponed to clean the house, it´s the CLEANING which will be delayed and go unfinished!!
Daily routine
Tidy up the area near the television as FAMILY activity at the end of each day.!! When everyone takes their OWN belongings out of the room and puts them away, the room is ready for the next use. Working TOGETHER to clean this room will build POSTIVE maintenance habits that will spread to other areas of the house.
Final task of each activity
At the end of a meal, clean up the kitchen so that the area is clean for the next use. Whenever a CRAFT project is completed, clean the area and put everything away. At the end of EACH day, hang up jackets, put away toys, and throw away the junk that is lying around DONT HOARD THINGS!!. The house will appear clean in the morning as the family is getting ready to greet the day.
Weekly routine
Designate one or two hours EACH day to completing some tasks. Instead of using ALL of Saturday to complete the cleaning, set up a cleaning SCHEDULE where each room is cleaned every week. Choose a day to address each child’s room. Designate another day to clean the bathrooms.. When small areas receive attention EACH day, the ENTIRE house will be cleaned each week without using weekend time.
Help from others
Some MAJOR tasks require help from family members and others require some PROFESSIONAL cleaning assistance. Hire someone to clean the carpet throughout the home or at least hire a MACHINE!! Designate two Saturdays each year to clean and straighten the garage and then throw a party at the end of the day to reward everyone.(preferably in the garden!!)
Incremental progress
Initial efforts to establish a cleaning schedule will be probably be met with some RESISTANCE, but each SUCCESSIVE week of cleaning WILL result in progress. PERSEVERE with the new schedule and notice that each week the chores are taking less time. As you notice areas that need improved, the house will become cleaner with less effort.
Fun is required!
Listen to your favourite music, an audio book, or a great radio program while completing the cleaning chores. Passing the time while listening to some music will help EVERYONE to remember that cleaning CAN be seasoned with FUN!
No Excuses!
RESIST the urge to let yourself avoid the cleaning chores for even ONE day. The life of a family is greatly IMPROVED when the house is not cluttered and dirty. PROCRASTINATION only causes stress!! Break down each chore and decide to spend some time EVERY day working through the clutter and cleaning at least ONE area. When EVERY family member participates in cleaning the house, each person becomes more AWARE of the EFFORT required to manage the home.
BATTLES over putting everything away will be eliminated when cleaning takes less time each week. TODDLERS learn quickly and what do TODDLERS turn into? They turn into CHILDREN who will realise that keeping their own belongings put away will result in LESS time to clean their rooms later. Giving the CHILDREN a good example of maintaining a clean home will HELP THEM and YOU when they become TEENAGERS and they WILL understand later that you have given them a lifelong gift which they will appreciate as adults!!!
Sooooo... What are you waiting for? WRITE YOUR SCHEDULE, TURN UP THE MUSIC AND GET CRACKING!!!
IT´s NEVER too late!!! (and teenagers can always be BRIBED!!)
Tuesday, 2 August 2011
Drop your Fears by ACTING AS IF you have NO Fear!!
Would you agree that all of our worries and fears are actually LEARNT!!
We are not born with fears. Sooo...our fears can therefore be UNLEARNT by practicing self discipline repeatedly with regard to fear until it basically just goes away!!
Some of the most common fears that we experience, which often sabotage all hope for success, are the fears of: FAILURE, POVERTY, LOSS OF MONEY, LOSS OF LOVE, LOSS OF JOBS, FEAR OF EMBARASSMENT or RIDICULE. In fact some people fear REJECTION and CRITICISM of any kind.. some of us can fear the loss of RESPECT or ESTEEM of others.. These fears cause AVOIDANCE of risk of any kind and rejection of OPPORTUNITY when it is presents itself!
How many people do you know that are so afraid of failure that they are almost paralyzed when it comes to taking any chances at all?!
BEING FEARFUL CAN PREVENT YOU FROM TAKING ACTION
The most common reaction in a fear situation is the attitude of, “I can’t!” This is the fear of failure and loss that stops us from taking action. These are many physical results of the inhibitive habit , which we can ALL experience from time to time. Whenever a person is in the grip of fear, he feels like a deer caught in the headlights of a car. This fear paralyzes action. It often shuts down the brain and causes the individual to revert to the “fight-or-flight” reaction.
Fear is a TERRIBLE emotion that undermines our happiness and can hold us back throughout our lives.
Soooo.. WHAT TO DO?
TRY VISUALIZING YOURSELF AS UNAFRAID!!
By VISUALIZING yourself performing with confidence and competence in an area where you are nervous oR afraid, your VISUAL image will eventually be accepted by your SUB CONSCIENCE mind as instructions for your performance.
Sooo .. the way you see yourself and think about yourself, is eventually ALTERED by feeding your mind these POSITIVE mental pictures of yourself performing at your BEST. By using the “act as if” method, you walk, talk, and carry yourself EXACTLY as you would if you were completely FEARLESS in a particular situation. You stand up straight, smile, move quickly and confidently, and in every respect ACT AS IF you already had the courage that you desire.
Think about this......“if you FEEL a certain way, you will ACT in a manner consistent with that feeling.” But if you ACT in a manner consistent with the FEELING you woul prefer to feel, even if you don’t actually FEEL it, then it is likely that you will CREATE the feeling that is consistent with your actions! In other words...You develop the courage you want by disciplining yourself repeatedly to do the thing you fear until that fear eventually disappears—and it will.
Sooo.. FACE YOUR FEARS
Your ability to confront, deal with, and act IN SPITE OF YOUR FEARS OR WORRIES, is the key to happiness and success. One of the best exercises you can practice is to identify a person or situation in your life of which you are afraid and resolve to deal with that fear situation immediately.
Don´t let it make you unhappy for another minute. Resolve to confront the situation or person and drop the fear!
MOVE TOWARDS THE FEAR
When you identify a fear and discipline yourself to move TOWARDS it, it grows smaller and more manageable. What’s more, as your fears grow smaller, your CONFIDENCE grows. Soon, your fears lose their CONTROL over YOU. On the other hand, when you back away from a fear-inducing situation or person, your fear grows larger and larger. Soon it can DOMINATE your thinking and feeling, preoccupy you during the day, and often keep you awake at night.
DEAL WITH THE FEAR DIRECTLY
Soooo.....the only way to deal with a fear is to address it head-on.
Remind yourself that “denial” is not a river in Egypt!
The natural tendency of many of us, is to DENY that we have a problem caused by fear of some kind. We´re afraid of confronting it. In turn, it becomes a major source of stress, unhappiness, and psychosomatic illness. Be willing to deal with the situation or person directly.
When we force ourselves to face ANY fear-inducing situation in our LIVES ,self-esteem goes up, self-respect increases, and our sense of personal pride grows. Eventually you ll reach the point in life where you are not afraid of anything.(except spiders of course)!!
We are not born with fears. Sooo...our fears can therefore be UNLEARNT by practicing self discipline repeatedly with regard to fear until it basically just goes away!!
Some of the most common fears that we experience, which often sabotage all hope for success, are the fears of: FAILURE, POVERTY, LOSS OF MONEY, LOSS OF LOVE, LOSS OF JOBS, FEAR OF EMBARASSMENT or RIDICULE. In fact some people fear REJECTION and CRITICISM of any kind.. some of us can fear the loss of RESPECT or ESTEEM of others.. These fears cause AVOIDANCE of risk of any kind and rejection of OPPORTUNITY when it is presents itself!
How many people do you know that are so afraid of failure that they are almost paralyzed when it comes to taking any chances at all?!
BEING FEARFUL CAN PREVENT YOU FROM TAKING ACTION
The most common reaction in a fear situation is the attitude of, “I can’t!” This is the fear of failure and loss that stops us from taking action. These are many physical results of the inhibitive habit , which we can ALL experience from time to time. Whenever a person is in the grip of fear, he feels like a deer caught in the headlights of a car. This fear paralyzes action. It often shuts down the brain and causes the individual to revert to the “fight-or-flight” reaction.
Fear is a TERRIBLE emotion that undermines our happiness and can hold us back throughout our lives.
Soooo.. WHAT TO DO?
TRY VISUALIZING YOURSELF AS UNAFRAID!!
By VISUALIZING yourself performing with confidence and competence in an area where you are nervous oR afraid, your VISUAL image will eventually be accepted by your SUB CONSCIENCE mind as instructions for your performance.
Sooo .. the way you see yourself and think about yourself, is eventually ALTERED by feeding your mind these POSITIVE mental pictures of yourself performing at your BEST. By using the “act as if” method, you walk, talk, and carry yourself EXACTLY as you would if you were completely FEARLESS in a particular situation. You stand up straight, smile, move quickly and confidently, and in every respect ACT AS IF you already had the courage that you desire.
Think about this......“if you FEEL a certain way, you will ACT in a manner consistent with that feeling.” But if you ACT in a manner consistent with the FEELING you woul prefer to feel, even if you don’t actually FEEL it, then it is likely that you will CREATE the feeling that is consistent with your actions! In other words...You develop the courage you want by disciplining yourself repeatedly to do the thing you fear until that fear eventually disappears—and it will.
Sooo.. FACE YOUR FEARS
Your ability to confront, deal with, and act IN SPITE OF YOUR FEARS OR WORRIES, is the key to happiness and success. One of the best exercises you can practice is to identify a person or situation in your life of which you are afraid and resolve to deal with that fear situation immediately.
Don´t let it make you unhappy for another minute. Resolve to confront the situation or person and drop the fear!
MOVE TOWARDS THE FEAR
When you identify a fear and discipline yourself to move TOWARDS it, it grows smaller and more manageable. What’s more, as your fears grow smaller, your CONFIDENCE grows. Soon, your fears lose their CONTROL over YOU. On the other hand, when you back away from a fear-inducing situation or person, your fear grows larger and larger. Soon it can DOMINATE your thinking and feeling, preoccupy you during the day, and often keep you awake at night.
DEAL WITH THE FEAR DIRECTLY
Soooo.....the only way to deal with a fear is to address it head-on.
Remind yourself that “denial” is not a river in Egypt!
The natural tendency of many of us, is to DENY that we have a problem caused by fear of some kind. We´re afraid of confronting it. In turn, it becomes a major source of stress, unhappiness, and psychosomatic illness. Be willing to deal with the situation or person directly.
When we force ourselves to face ANY fear-inducing situation in our LIVES ,self-esteem goes up, self-respect increases, and our sense of personal pride grows. Eventually you ll reach the point in life where you are not afraid of anything.(except spiders of course)!!
Saturday, 30 July 2011
Turn Problems into Actions!!!
Do you sometimes feel that you are always unlucky, stressed out and unhappy? No matter what day it is, no matter what the season is, do you feel that sometimes you meet friends or colleagues and they immediately start talking about their PROBLEMS (I´ll explain what’s a PROBLEM and an ACTIVITY, later) and that they magnify every little point to larger than life extent!!
If it s not THEIR personal problems, they start blaming OTHERS, government, politics and you name it they have their NEGATIVE remarks ready for it. In other words they flood you with negativity and you start wondering why life is so unfair for them!
Well .....This article is for THEM. However, If you are one of THEM then this article is for YOU... and let s face it i think we can ALL be guilty of this from time to time!
Soooo.....in order to help and make life more enjoyable and stress-free. let s step up to a higher level and get equipped with tools and action points to handle problems!
Difference between a PROBLEM and an ACTIVITY
When we face an unexpected situation or unplanned task, instead of embracing stress and start getting panic attacks, stop here for a moment. Is this really a problem? Or could it be an additional activity you need to perform?
Well .....Then.... “just do it”. Don’t think too much about why this is happening for you. If you don’t know what that additional action is that you need to take, then just ask others and seek help. Finish the matter. Become stress free. Now tell me was that REALLY a problem?
Soooo...Let me reverse the situation for you. ...If you had considered this additional activity as a BLOCKING stone and kept on PROCRASTINATING and increased your stress levels ... where would you have got? NOWHERE! When we take ACTION, the PROBLEM will be solved!!
Read this sentence a couple of times...
ACTIVITY is different than a PROBLEM!! Activity is something you NEED to do anyway and you KNOW how to do it. A PROBLEM is something you don’t WANT to do or dont know HOW to do!!!
Soooo.... plan well, get information, finish one task at a time.
Stop the negative streams
Yes, stop it. If you feel you are getting negative news from TV then stop watching that channel or even better switch off TV. If you think you are constantly influenced by negative thinking friends, then deal with them.
Don’t expect perfection in everything you see!
Mistakes do happen once in a while from everyone including you. Soooo....When someone commits a mistake, point it out positively and offer the solution. We are only human
Involve yourself in a hobby
Whether it’s listening to music or learning a new language or playing chess. Make sure that you give yourself a leisure time. Soooo...Read inspiring content and motivate yourself!!
Stop comparing yourself to others
This may be the one of the root causes for your negative feeling. Understand that everyone is unique and blessed with their own happiness or faced with own challenges (note that I have not said problems). So focus on YOURSELF. Reduce distractions. Invest in yourself. Eliminate fluff. Don’t fall for the comparison trap. Free up yourself from undue stress.
SOOOO....Create Time For Your Life and try the above small changes to your life. Your “unhappiness” is just an illusion. You are already happy. You just need to realize it.
And dont forget.......Happiness is not a destination....it s a way of life!!!!
If it s not THEIR personal problems, they start blaming OTHERS, government, politics and you name it they have their NEGATIVE remarks ready for it. In other words they flood you with negativity and you start wondering why life is so unfair for them!
Well .....This article is for THEM. However, If you are one of THEM then this article is for YOU... and let s face it i think we can ALL be guilty of this from time to time!
Soooo.....in order to help and make life more enjoyable and stress-free. let s step up to a higher level and get equipped with tools and action points to handle problems!
Difference between a PROBLEM and an ACTIVITY
When we face an unexpected situation or unplanned task, instead of embracing stress and start getting panic attacks, stop here for a moment. Is this really a problem? Or could it be an additional activity you need to perform?
Well .....Then.... “just do it”. Don’t think too much about why this is happening for you. If you don’t know what that additional action is that you need to take, then just ask others and seek help. Finish the matter. Become stress free. Now tell me was that REALLY a problem?
Soooo...Let me reverse the situation for you. ...If you had considered this additional activity as a BLOCKING stone and kept on PROCRASTINATING and increased your stress levels ... where would you have got? NOWHERE! When we take ACTION, the PROBLEM will be solved!!
Read this sentence a couple of times...
ACTIVITY is different than a PROBLEM!! Activity is something you NEED to do anyway and you KNOW how to do it. A PROBLEM is something you don’t WANT to do or dont know HOW to do!!!
Soooo.... plan well, get information, finish one task at a time.
Stop the negative streams
Yes, stop it. If you feel you are getting negative news from TV then stop watching that channel or even better switch off TV. If you think you are constantly influenced by negative thinking friends, then deal with them.
Don’t expect perfection in everything you see!
Mistakes do happen once in a while from everyone including you. Soooo....When someone commits a mistake, point it out positively and offer the solution. We are only human
Involve yourself in a hobby
Whether it’s listening to music or learning a new language or playing chess. Make sure that you give yourself a leisure time. Soooo...Read inspiring content and motivate yourself!!
Stop comparing yourself to others
This may be the one of the root causes for your negative feeling. Understand that everyone is unique and blessed with their own happiness or faced with own challenges (note that I have not said problems). So focus on YOURSELF. Reduce distractions. Invest in yourself. Eliminate fluff. Don’t fall for the comparison trap. Free up yourself from undue stress.
SOOOO....Create Time For Your Life and try the above small changes to your life. Your “unhappiness” is just an illusion. You are already happy. You just need to realize it.
And dont forget.......Happiness is not a destination....it s a way of life!!!!
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