Boost Yourself Up..Learn How Here!!

How often do you pat yourself on the back and tell yourself how wonderful you are?

In my Coaching practice I teach an exercise called Mirror Boosting!

I recommend doing this exercise for a minimum of 21 days in a row without skipping a day as a way of building your self-esteem and your self-confidence. 

A number of years ago I suffered from Post Traumatic Stress. I had heard about using positive affirmations as a way of healing and moving forwards but had never incorporated it into my own life. Well..what a transformation when I started literally talking to myself in the mirror!

The number one benefit I have received from using this Exercise over the past five years is that I have developed a very intimate relationship with myself. 

I now call it 'My Mirror Boost Buck-Up"!!

'Vivien I acknowledge you for saying yes to your wildest dream.' '

"Vivien I am so proud of you for doing the Mirror Exercise for the past five years"

"Vivien I acknowledge you for all your persistence growing your business."

"Vivien I admire the way you accept and flow with all the changes in your life"

'Vivien , I love you.' '

"Vivien  you deserve the very best!'

 (This is just in case my subconscious isn't clear about that because in my head I do truly believe it !)

Now, even when I have a really bad day, I look myself in the mirror and come up with good things to say. 

I look deeply into my eyes, and talk to myself really slowly. Real honesty. I have accomplished so much, so why shouldn't I acknowledge it?

While talking to myself I stand a little taller, feel good and smile. And when I am finished I stand even taller..feel even better and am normally laughing!!

You see before, I used to always acknowledge everyone else....feeling that they were better than me.... Always feeling that they had " got it altogether" far more than me!

Sometimes even now I feel really amazed at all the positive benefits of the Mirror Boost Buck-Up practice. 

I find that I am able to ask others for help more, and I am really getting good at receiving it! I always have had self-confidence and high self-esteem, but now I am much more grounded, present and self-assured. 

All things grow with positivity. 

So are you acknowledging your positives?

Look into your own eyes and acknowlede what you have accomplished whether big or small will have a truly powerful impact. 

The repeated looking into your eyes and saying I love you strengthens the love muscle. I always acknowledge my friends, my family,  my clients, and my children knowing it will make them more successful. 

However practicing the Mirror Exercise has made ME more successful. I now value my own needs as much as I value other people's needs, which has also led to stronger relationships. I now feel able to ask for a lot more and I am much better at receiving. 

If you'd like to learn more about personal development then check out my website at 

Http://createtimeforyourlife.com

18 Tips From A Life Coach

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   If you have enough money left over at the end of the month (after saving) then enjoy it...it is never wasted if you use it to have fun...
2. Do you like someone? Then tell them...What have you got to lose?
   
3. Live your life today, because yesterday’s gone, and there may not be a tomorrow..
   
4. Is something not clear? Then ask for an explanation. 
5. Are you feeling lonely? If you want company ...send an invitation. tomorrow. 
   
   
   
6. Avoid arguments when agreement can be reached.
7.  Do you want to be understood...then explain ..calmly!
   
   
   
8. Avoid contact with negative people!
   
9. Never forget your problems are only in your head. Find solutions.
   
10. Try to enjoy even in a tiny way everything that happens to you during your life. 
    
11. Always remember that you won’t have another life...
    
12. Don’t waste too much time time watching TV, or gaming!
13. Remember that you owe no one anything. 
14. Remember that no one owes you anything. 
15. There’s only one person you can rely on in this life — yourself. 
    
16. Always be patient and a little indulgent towards children. 
17. If you’re in a bad mood, think about the fact that when you leave this world, you won’t be in any mood at all. 
    
18. Create Time For Your Life TODAY!! It could be the best day of your life!
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Take the Relaxation Quotes Challenge

Take the "Relaxation Quotes Challenge"

Comment below and let me know how you got on in September! 

1. 1.  Read the quotes below.
2. 
   
3. 2.  Put on your  listening hat. 
4. 
   
5. Which quote:
6. 
   i) most UNSETTLES you  
   ii) most RESONATES with you?
7. 
   
8. Write out these 2 quotes and put them somewhere you'll see them often.
9. 
   
10. Over the next 4 weeks, make an effort to notice the quotes - and each time you do, ask:
11. 
    i) "What is this quote teaching me today/now?"  &
    
    
12. ii) "What WILL I do with this information?"

Here Are Your Relaxation Quotes:

• "Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are." Chinese Proverb
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• "The harder you push yourself, the harder your self pushes back." Anonymous
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• "Problems arise in that one has to find a balance between what people need from you and what you need for yourself." Jessye Norman
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• "The key to keeping your balance is knowing when you've lost it." Anonymous
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• "Balance is not better time management, but better boundary management. 
• Balance means making choices and enjoying those choices." Betsy Jacobson
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• "Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance and order and rhythm and harmony." Thomas Merton 

Remember to comment below and let me know how you got on in September!

You Need to Make this Promise to Yourself

                         My Promise

"I promise to…

Dream big.

Embrace growth, learning and change.

Look for the best in myself – and look for the best in others.

Allow my passion to fuel my life.

Stay true to who I am while becoming the best I can be.

Create healthy boundaries that lift me higher so I can serve better.

Grow a heart-centered career or business that rocks!

Say “Thank you” for all the love, beauty and joy in my life. Every. Single. Day.

Play, dance and sing every chance I get.

Honor myself and those whose lives I encounter by taking action toward my goals and dreams."

Why not write this promise on a sticky note and tape it to your computer or your whiteboard. Or keep it in your notes on your phone!

Create a poster or write it on a postcard and send it to yourself.

This way you will create the life that you desire😀

Remember...your thoughts create your future...

Vivien Black

Createtimeforyourlife.com

Leave the past in the past!

Do you realise that most of us don't leave the past in the past. We take the past ino the future and when we do that it looks like the past makes us who we are and gives us our life in the present - kind of like two filing cabinets. 

One file cabinet says the "past" and the 
other one says the "future" but we've got

the stuff that should be in the past filing cabinet stored in the future filing cabinet!

However If we just take the past stuff out of the future and put it into the past (and there's a way to do that) what will we have in the future one?

Nothing!

- Which is perfect  because if who we are in the present, is given by the future into 
which We live, then we are able to create a future for ourselves that will give us us contentment in the present. ....A future that has happiness, contentment, vitality, and self-expression 

Create Time For Your Life today!

Five Books that just might change your life!

Five Books that just might change your life!

There are tons of books out there that can give you courage, inspiration and great insights…

But there are others that go beyond words and create a profound impact on your life, ultimately changing a part of you and transforming the way you see the world. 

Here are the top 5 books that have changed my life (and could change yours too!):

1 - Conversations With God 

This amazing book by Neale Donald Walsch helped bring spirituality into my life. Who would’ve thought a book could do that? Atheist or agnostic this book is still a lovely read.....

2 - Think & Grow Rich 

This book by Napoleon Hill is very close to my heart as it was my first personal development book. I read it again recently and it’s as good as it was the first time. 

3 - The Way of The Peaceful Warrior 

This best-seller by Dan Millman taught me how to use my mind with my body, to create what I wanted in life. Profound wisdom in a nutshell!

4 - Magic of Thinking Big 

Many people say this book by David J. Schwartz contains the secret to success. For me, it really helped take my entrepreneurial skills to a whole new level!

5 - What I Know For Sure 

This book by Oprah Winfrey made me realize that she’s just like us, and that We all have the same power to achieve big things, just like she did. 

So there you have it!

And if you decide to give any of these books a read, I promise… you won’t regret it :)

Create a great day!

Vivien

What Is Success?

What is Success?

http://youtu.be/e--QtnfvI3c

Give the Gift of Listening

Do you listen to reply or listen to ignite?

Most of us are always thinking about what we are going to say next whilst we are listening!!!

However when we know someone is not going to interrupt us it frees us to truly think for ourselves.. 

So why not give the gift of listening to someone today!

Give Your 

Attention

Do you watch for holes, a pause, perhaps an intake of breath, in fact the slightest hint of the other person being finished just so you can jump in? 

Until I became a coach I was really guilty of this. In fact I have to watch myself all the time especially when over-excited on a social occasion!!! 

My friends and family will agree totally here!

Feeling the need to speak and butt-in can be because "just listening" can make you feel like you are not being a leader!! 

However the more we listen, the more empowerment we give to others. 

It makes the speaker feel that what they are saying is worthwhile....and by continuing to listen we are saying that what they going to say next is even more interesting and  worthwhile ...therefore you are giving them the gift of confidence in theirselves and allowing them to be creative and inspired.

As professional listeners ...we matter deeply ..because we don't actually matter at all! It is all about our clients. Helping them to have the space to really feel able to express their ideas freely.

Could you try this today:

Decide that unless you have a dire emergency you will not interrupt someone you are talking to?

When someone be it a colleague or friend gets stuck and feels they don't have the right answers ask them this..

If you knew for sure you were thought of and that you indeed are intelligent, good, beautiful, creative, inspired and that I am here for you.. What thoughts would you have next?

Then stay 100 % focussed on content response and the thinking environment you are providing them! 

What a gift that truly is.

This doesn't just work in the professional world...if you have children it is a wonderful tool:

Each day when you are with your child.. turn off everything and just listen..just be available and your child will soon talk..

and when they talk.. Listen and listen and listen

You can't go back to their childhood and listen.. They are gone!!

Create a great day today!

Vivien Black is a Personal Development Coach at http://createtimeforyourlife.com

There is no such thing as "try"..do or don't!!

Replace can and can't with will or won't. 

It's been said that "In life, the wills and the will not's determine the haves and have not's." 

While this statement might not be
popular with the faint hearted or the hyper sensitive - it's usually quite true on most occasions.

"Either do or do not. There is no try." Commitment is "yes I will" or 
"no I won't."

What will you do today to commit to your future?

Vivien is a Personal Development Coach at Create Time For Your Life

10 films that will warm your heart

Looking for a film to warm your heart this Weekend?

Here's a top ten list!

10 films that will warm your heart



Enjoy!

Can You Create a Perfect Life?

Can You Create the Perfect Life?

Watch this video: http://youtu.be/REpa9PbLjj8

Yes you can! You can create the perfect life for You!!

Start by believing it's perfect just as it is right now. Put a hundred percent into everything you do.

Savour every moment. Live in the present..living in the moment doesn't mean you can't plan or make goals for the future..you can as long as you are taking action in the present to create the future you want and not just "wishing" or "hoping" that things will change.

Believe in yourself right now and most of all be grateful that you have this opportunity to create the life that you want.

Here is a little 60 second video I created..it s called Perfect Day..every day has the potential to be perfect if you believe it!

Create a perfect day today!

http://youtu.be/REpa9PbLjj8

My Wonderful Days

There's a great App called "my wonderful days" which i always recomend my clients to use.

What is My Wonderful Days?

My Wonderful Days is simply a diary. The Main concept of the app is "one-face-a-day." 

Each day is remembered by a feeling. So there's a little bar along the bottom where you get to choose your feeling about the day. 

It's a fact that writing about the day helps people to live a happier and healthier life. 

Should You write everyday?

Yes!

You can set a daily notice at a certain time. Try writing anything simple at first and you'll get to start writing about your day easily everyday.

Try and think about what you did and why and more importantly, look for the positives  in every situation.. That will help you choose a happier face at the end..!

You can also add other motives and your own photos!

Try it and let me know how you get on!

Vivien is a personal development coach at http://createtimeforyourlife.com

Clear your desk...clear your mind!

Would you agree that a clear desk represents a clear mind?





Therefore... A messy desk represents a messy mind. When your office space is disorganized, your thoughts are disorganized as well.

It’s so important to regularly de-clutter, file your paperwork and purge everything you do not need.

When you make it a habit to clean your desk nightly, clutter won’t pile up and you can start each day fresh & focused. 

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Check out my website: Create Time For Your Life

Simple Steps to A Selfless You!

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   How do you think you would you feel if you Performed one selfless act every day? 
   
   
   Do you agree that In life, we get what we put in?
   
   
   


Do you find that when we make a positive impact in someone else’s life, we also make a positive impact in our own life? 

Sooo...Today why not Do something that’s greater than YOU? ....something that helps someone else be happy or suffer less?

What if  I promise you that it will be an extremely rewarding experience?  One you’ll likely remember forever?

Obviously your options here are limitless... but if you’re looking to assist an ordinary person in need without leaving your chair, why not check out gofundme.com right now..and help them and help you feeeeel greeeaaat?

Or..perhaps today you need to do something for YOU and help YOURSELF?

Checkout my website http://createtimeforyourlife.com 😀

Create  great day today!

7 Tips to make a change today!

1. Give one new thing a go every day. 
   
2. Variety truly is the spice of life.  
3. You can see or do something a million times, but you can only see or do it for the first time once.  
   
4. First time experiences often leave reflective marks in our minds for the rest of our lives. 
5.  Make an effort to try something new every day for the next 30 days. 
6.  It can be a whole new activity or just a small experience, such as talking to a stranger.  
   

   
   
7. Once you get the ball rolling many of these new experiences will open doors to life changing opportunities!

So..what are you waiting for? Create Time For Your Life right NOW!

Don't put your Dreams on Hold

Don’t Put Your Dreams on Hold

Let’s get straight to the point…we all have a finite amount of time on this planet. One day our work will be done here on earth, and no one has a crystal ball to notify us when exactly that day will come.

    

So...Knowing that, what are you going to do with the remaining, rare and precious moments you have? 

 

You have hopes, dreams and desires inside of you. When are you going to get to them? Later, when you’re older and more tired?

Of course, there are a million reasons why you shouldn’t…you have errands to run, bills to pay, work to do, and people to care for. Guess what…that never stops.

 

Right NOW is the only time that you can count on. Right now you have the fire. Right now you have breath to breathe. 

Right now is the only reality you know. The future is an illusion and the past is a memory. So do yourself (and everyone else) a favor and get moving on those dreams TODAY.

 

Steve Jobs,  co-founder and visionary of Apple Computer, said it best when he said, “Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”

Today is your day. Now is your time. Don’t look back 5, 10, 20 years from now regretting that you waited so long to go after something that mattered - or worse yet…that you didn’t even try.

What will YOU do NOW?  As the future is promised to no one.