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Tuesday, 8 December 2015

Boost Yourself Up..Learn How Here!!

How often do you pat yourself on the back and tell yourself how wonderful you are?

In my Coaching practice I teach an exercise called Mirror Boosting!

I recommend doing this exercise for a minimum of 21 days in a row without skipping a day as a way of building your self-esteem and your self-confidence. 

A number of years ago I suffered from Post Traumatic Stress. I had heard about using positive affirmations as a way of healing and moving forwards but had never incorporated it into my own life. Well..what a transformation when I started literally talking to myself in the mirror!

The number one benefit I have received from using this Exercise over the past five years is that I have developed a very intimate relationship with myself. 

I now call it 'My Mirror Boost Buck-Up"!!

'Vivien I acknowledge you for saying yes to your wildest dream.' '
"Vivien I am so proud of you for doing the Mirror Exercise for the past five years"
"Vivien I acknowledge you for all your persistence growing your business."
"Vivien I admire the way you accept and flow with all the changes in your life"
'Vivien , I love you.' '
"Vivien  you deserve the very best!'
 (This is just in case my subconscious isn't clear about that because in my head I do truly believe it !)

Now, even when I have a really bad day, I look myself in the mirror and come up with good things to say. 

I look deeply into my eyes, and talk to myself really slowly. Real honesty. I have accomplished so much, so why shouldn't I acknowledge it?

While talking to myself I stand a little taller, feel good and smile. And when I am finished I stand even taller..feel even better and am normally laughing!!

You see before, I used to always acknowledge everyone else....feeling that they were better than me.... Always feeling that they had " got it altogether" far more than me!

Sometimes even now I feel really amazed at all the positive benefits of the Mirror Boost Buck-Up practice. 

I find that I am able to ask others for help more, and I am really getting good at receiving it! I always have had self-confidence and high self-esteem, but now I am much more grounded, present and self-assured. 

All things grow with positivity. 

So are you acknowledging your positives?

Look into your own eyes and acknowlede what you have accomplished whether big or small will have a truly powerful impact. 

The repeated looking into your eyes and saying I love you strengthens the love muscle. I always acknowledge my friends, my family,  my clients, and my children knowing it will make them more successful. 

However practicing the Mirror Exercise has made ME more successful. I now value my own needs as much as I value other people's needs, which has also led to stronger relationships. I now feel able to ask for a lot more and I am much better at receiving. 

If you'd like to learn more about personal development then check out my website at 

Monday, 10 August 2015

Take the Relaxation Quotes Challenge

Take the "Relaxation Quotes Challenge"

Comment below and let me know how you got on in September! 

  1. 1.  Read the quotes below.

  2. 2.  Put on your  listening hat. 

  3. Which quote:

  4. i) most UNSETTLES you  
    ii) most RESONATES with you?

  5. Write out these 2 quotes and put them somewhere you'll see them often.

  6. Over the next 4 weeks, make an effort to notice the quotes - and each time you do, ask:

  7. i) "What is this quote teaching me today/now?"  &

  8. ii) "What WILL I do with this information?"

Here Are Your Relaxation Quotes:

  • "Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are." Chinese Proverb

  • "The harder you push yourself, the harder your self pushes back." Anonymous

  • "Problems arise in that one has to find a balance between what people need from you and what you need for yourself." Jessye Norman

  • "The key to keeping your balance is knowing when you've lost it." Anonymous

  • "Balance is not better time management, but better boundary management. 
  • Balance means making choices and enjoying those choices." Betsy Jacobson

  • "Happiness is not a matter of intensity but of balance and order and rhythm and harmony." Thomas Merton 

Remember to comment below and let me know how you got on in September!

Thursday, 21 May 2015

You Need to Make this Promise to Yourself

                         My Promise

"I promise to…

Dream big.

Embrace growth, learning and change.

Look for the best in myself – and look for the best in others.

Allow my passion to fuel my life.

Stay true to who I am while becoming the best I can be.

Create healthy boundaries that lift me higher so I can serve better.

Grow a heart-centered career or business that rocks!

Say “Thank you” for all the love, beauty and joy in my life. Every. Single. Day.

Play, dance and sing every chance I get.

Honor myself and those whose lives I encounter by taking action toward my goals and dreams."

Why not write this promise on a sticky note and tape it to your computer or your whiteboard. Or keep it in your notes on your phone!

Create a poster or write it on a postcard and send it to yourself.

This way you will create the life that you desire😀

Remember...your thoughts create your future...

Vivien Black

Leave the past in the past!

Do you realise that most of us don't leave the past in the past. We take the past ino the future and when we do that it looks like the past makes us who we are and gives us our life in the present - kind of like two filing cabinets. 

One file cabinet says the "past" and the 
other one says the "future" but we've got

the stuff that should be in the past filing cabinet stored in the future filing cabinet!

However If we just take the past stuff out of the future and put it into the past (and there's a way to do that) what will we have in the future one?


- Which is perfect  because if who we are in the present, is given by the future into 
which We live, then we are able to create a future for ourselves that will give us us contentment in the present. ....
A future that has happiness, contentment, vitality, and self-expression 

Create Time For Your Life today!

Thursday, 14 May 2015

Five Books that just might change your life!

Five Books that just might change your life!

There are tons of books out there that can give you courage, inspiration and great insights…

But there are others that go beyond words and create a profound impact on your life, ultimately changing a part of you and transforming the way you see the world. 

Here are the top 5 books that have changed my life (and could change yours too!):

1 - Conversations With God 

This amazing book by Neale Donald Walsch helped bring spirituality into my life. Who would’ve thought a book could do that? Atheist or agnostic this book is still a lovely read.....

2 - Think & Grow Rich 

This book by Napoleon Hill is very close to my heart as it was my first personal development book. I read it again recently and it’s as good as it was the first time. 

3 - The Way of The Peaceful Warrior 

This best-seller by Dan Millman taught me how to use my mind with my body, to create what I wanted in life. Profound wisdom in a nutshell!

4 - Magic of Thinking Big 

Many people say this book by David J. Schwartz contains the secret to success. For me, it really helped take my entrepreneurial skills to a whole new level!

5 - What I Know For Sure 

This book by Oprah Winfrey made me realize that she’s just like us, and that We all have the same power to achieve big things, just like she did. 

So there you have it!

And if you decide to give any of these books a read, I promise… you won’t regret it :)

Create a great day!