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Wednesday 29 June 2011

Are you experiencing the LOSS of a loved one,your business/ job or a relationship?

I am sure you will agree that Life as we know too well is definitely NOT "a bowl of cherries "and sometimes it is indeed "the pits!!" Things BOTH good and bad get thrown at us unexpectedly. We cruise along just fine with everything going our way, then, suddenly - we take a BIG nose-dive.

Don t you think that how we FEEL about OURSELVES ultimately affects whether we can simply pick ourselves UP and move ON ...or not? Wouldn't you agree that MAJOR breakups, failures of businesses and the LOSS of someone we care about,can all act in a severe way on our ability to push onwards and upwards?

Sometimes we just don't feel CAPABLE of dealing with certain situations including ..dealing with our own EMOTIONS. As a result, we often become stuck in a RUT and not able to move forward. Death, divorce or even an "empty nest" can completely knock us for six in dealing with any other areas of our routine existence.

Such losses can affect even the most BASIC things.. such as living arrangements and it can also impact on WORK, FINANCIAL SECURITY and our PERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS. There is large hole that needs to be filled but in times of LOSS, we can feel incapable of filling it..

If a relationship was involved, the loss can be ESPECIALLY deep. Our ENTIRE life may have revolved around this other individual. Now we are faced with the prospect of starting all over again! Even knowing WHERE to begin can be a major challenge that can send us spiraling downwards.

Loss is not restricted to the disappearance of SOMEONE from our lives. Loss can also weigh heavily when a BUSINESS goes BUST or we lose our JOB. Either situation can be DEVASTATING. We feel powerless and trapped.

However, as in a case of divorce or in times of bereavement, if we don't get the RIGHT kind of help to move forward with our lives, we can be faced POTENTIALLY with physical and mental health issues. No matter what TYPE of loss we suffer, one thing remains clear. ..We MUST move FORWARD... doesn't matter how SLOWLY .. just a little bit at a time will help..

Our lives DESERVE to be filled with the BEST we can offer - including happiness, inner-calm and reaching our TRUE potential.

Soooooo.. WHAT TO DO? Create Time For YOUR Life....that´s what!!

The most helpful thing you can do at times like this is to turn to a LIFE COACH. A coach can help ANYONE coping with loss by GUIDING them to EXAMINE and DISCOVER what is not working in their lives. Life coaches can help you find out why this is so and work WITH you in helping you discover the right direction for YOU.

They ´ll then work with you to plot a FEASIBLE plan to achieve your goals. Furthermore, they help you do this by helping you access the source of the BLOCKS or LIMITATIONS affecting your ability to progress. They can help you discover what´s holding you BACK and SUPPORT you during your progression from that point to where you want to go.

It´s important to remember your loss is not an end unto itself. How would you feel if i suggested that you try to accept that it is "but the closing of a chapter in a book called ..LIFE." It´ s helpful to understand this and move forward.

Soooo...... If you feel you have difficulty grasping this concept and find yourself trapped, unable to forge ahead....perhaps life coaching would be a helpful solution for YOU. Always remember ...that WORDS have the power to HEAL...that CHANGE is ALWAYS possible...and that there is ALWAYS a CHOICE to be made!

Sunday 26 June 2011

Would you like to achieve SERENE Confidence?

If I suggested to you that you can be SERENE and CONFIDENT at the same time, then don´t you think you would be on your way to SUCCESS?

Serene confidence is that quality we recognise in a persons´ personality that is respected and sought after by everybody....It is a difficult trait to master and most people spend a LIFETIME trying to achieve this...

Wouldn´t you agree that SERENE CONFIDENCE leads to strength of character, economic prosperity, patience, focus and improved communication with others? If YOU have Serene Confidence then YOU will accomplish MORE,with LESS effort and do so in a CALM, COURAGEOUS, unshakeable manner.

Soooooo.. how about Creating some Time in Your lLfe, by attaining Serene Confidence and thus learning to RELAX and fully enjoy your achievements?

Serene Confidence is like turning on a light switch. By tuning into this mode, we can illuminate challenges as soon as they appear. It s then easier to ensure an IMMEDIATE transformation of CHALLENGES into SOLUTIONS..In other words, problems MAY arise but they are EASILY dealt with and we can remain UNSHAKEABLE and CALM, even in the throws of CHAOS.

SERENITY comes from controlling your BREATHING, thus controlling your MIND and subsequently your life!! Learning to relax and stay calm in the midst of ANYTHING and EVERYTHING is a huge asset!

CONFIDENCE comes from being in control of your SELF - knowing that YOU are in CONTROL of your self and KNOWING that you KNOW! You see, CONFIDENCE is strength with STYLE!

We should try to learn how to affect our own destiny and aim to feel at ease with the qualities of creativity and harmony.. Living in SERENE CONFIDENCE creates a natural flow of energy that can inspire us to truly live the lives we desire!!

Sooooooo.... HOW DO WE ACHIEVE SERENE CONFIDENCE??

How about aiming for SERENE CONFIDENCE in EVERY moment of EVERY day?

We should practice taking CONTROL of OUR OWN lives....not other peoples! We should FIND OUT how to have a relaxed & calm MIND. Or how about developing trust and faith WITHIN ourselves, others and the PROCESS of life. Also, we need to increase FOCUS and get clearer VISION of our GOALS.

It´s a good idea to try aiming for vibrant health, BOTH physically & emotionally. Reach for results you want in ALL aspects of your life. By rediscovering your CREATIVE flow you can look for ways to increase your income & earning potential.

If we aim to increase PHYSICAL energy and MENTAL concentration, this will help expand our self-awareness & master our subconscious mind which in turn will help us become more EFFECTIVE and increase our productivity.

A good tip is to learn how to breathe PROPERLY to increase vitality and concentration. It´s also possible to develop our INTUITION. We can also work on strengthening our LEADERSHIP qualities.

Try and remember that no matter what the situation, connect to your HEART. We can also build up nerve & muscular STRENGTH by increasing our breathing CAPACITY.

Find out and maintain your EQUILIBRIUM. Always aim to REDUCE stress and relax. This can lead to you becoming happier, peaceful and healthy!

Work on freeing yourselves from addictions - whether its to people, alcohol, chocolate, cigarettes, food, caffeine, gambling or whatever it is that you crave..remember...everything in moderation...

Communicate EFFECTIVELY and by doing this hopefully you will have stronger, healthier RELATIONSHIPS. Work on how to relax and stay calm..no matter what!

Work on your brain and obtain a clearer and sharper MIND.... Filter out negativity, fear, anger and DOUBT. Dont you think if we INTEGRATE our mind, body and spirit then we will enjoy inner peace and a HAPPY state of mind....

It s always helpful to look for NEW perspectives and find SOLUTIONS to life's challenges and by searching for clarity and insight to make EFFECTIVE decisions then it s easier to shift patterns from STUCK to RESOURCEFUL

By building inner strength then you can DEVELOP character and transform negativity to positivity- which in turn will help you become more balanced..

Learn problem solving TECHNIQUES.. Work on self control Build a powerful PRESENCE.. Find protection from negativity. Be FLEXIBLE in mind & body. Learn to LET GO!! Be able to FORGIVE!

By working on yourself, then you are taking control of your future!

Soooo....If developing ANY of the above appeals to YOU.......speak with a LIFE COACH..

You´ve only got ONE LIFE!! LIVE IT!!

Friday 24 June 2011

If a 99 year old can get his Degree....What are you aiming for at 99!

If a 99-year-old can do it, so can you.

And while you don’t need a degree to have a huge success, some people just want one to enrich their lives. Such is the case for Leo Plass, who finally completed something he started 79 years ago.

Check out this story from KTVZ News and find out what this almost-centenarian has to say about donning a cap-n-gown. I ve reprinted the piece here in full for your convenience.

99-Year-Old Gets His College Degree By Mackenzie Wilson, KTVZ.COM

He’s just two months shy of turning 100 — and a few days ago, a Redmond man received his college diploma from Eastern Oregon University in La Grande. Back in 1932, Leo Plass was less than one semester away from graduating from what was then called Eastern Oregon Normal School. Teaching was his future, but the “present” kept him from it. It was the Depression, and a teaching salary of just $80 a month wouldn’t cut it.

When a friend offered him a spot in a logging outfit, Plass couldn’t pass it up. ”He offered me $150, and it was the Great Depression,” Plass said Tuesday. “That was a lot of money – a lot of money.” So at the age of 20, Plass dropped out and tried his hand in logging. He’d later learn he was just a few credits short of his teaching degree. ”They told me I just had three hours to go,” said Plass. “I said, ‘Gee, too bad you didn’t tell me that then — I would have stayed there all night to just get those three hours in.’”

Looking back, the spry 99-year-old who’s still passionate about carpentry says he’s not really sure why he wanted to be a teacher. Although he does think his fellow graduates could stand to learn a thing or two. “They don’t teach youngsters things they need to know about,” said Plass. “When I was in school, that’s about all they did teach. You learned how to cook, you learned how to sew and how to type.” Those skills would get Plass through dozens of jobs.

As for what it took for the new graduate to reach nearly the century mark? “Good family, good life, good food,” Plass said. “I had two good cooks, my mother and my wife. Everything good seemed to work for me.”

With all that good in his life, Plass didn’t expect things to get even better. Then he put on his cap and gown. ”Never dreamed of something like this happening to me,” said Plass, who received an associate’s degree. “It’s out of this world.” Plass said even though years and years separate him and his fellow EOU graduates, they have one unfortunate thing in common. And that’s that then and now, jobs are few and far between.

Sooooo...now it´s your turn! What are your plans for 99?

Sunday 19 June 2011

A Little Thought on Thoughts......

Have you ever thought that life is somehow just "HAPPENING to you"..and that you are a "victim" of every situation that just seems to happen that you dont particularly like?

Well how would you feel if i suggested that in actual fact life is proceeding THROUGH you and BY you and in actual fact, the way you shape your ideas, changes your experiences.

Try this...every time something happens that you DON´T like, or that you feel uncomfortable with.....PAUSE, take a breath and then CONSCIOUSLY choose what you are going to think about the situation...In other words, "CHOOSE to "THINK" a thought!"

That way you will be able to make what YOU want out of the experience rather than letting the experience make what it will out of YOU!

This lovely poem by Henry Van Dyke puts this aptly..




Thoughts Are Things



“I hold it true that thoughts are things.

They're endowed with body and breath and wings.

And that we send them forth to fill

the world with good results or ill.

That which we call our secret thought

speeds forth to earth's remotest spot,

leaving its blessings or its woes

like tracks behind it as it goes.”

We build our future thought by thought.

For good or ill, we know it not.

Yet so the universe was wrought.

Thought is another name for fate.

Choose then thy destiny and wait,

for love brings love and hate brings hate.”


Sooooo.....remember, it´s not just a question any more of "thinking before we speak"....we need to learn to "think before we think!!!"!

Friday 10 June 2011

Create Time For Your LIFE......Choose the Life You Desire......

Sooo..Did You Really Want To Be An Accountant, a Lawyer, A Doctor or a Dentist!!

WHY are so many people miserable in their current careers? Wouldn´t you agree that sometimes the way we think about choosing a career in this modern world perhaps needs to be reviewed? Most of us, when thinking about what we want to do “when we grow up” choose careers that we think will be marketable.

For example, no child grows up thinking they want to be a lawyer or accountant.

So then why is it that our society has so many lawyers, accountants, doctors and dentists.... It’s because at some point, people began to view being a lawyer as a method of survival, of attaining the glamorous lifestyle they see on TV. These people picked Law or Medicine as a career because they saw it as a way to pay off their student debts and meet their needs for happiness and fulfilment.

Wouldnt you agree that many practicing lawyers, accountants, doctors and dentists describe themselves as dissatisfied.. So why then do so many students choose professional careers.. Dont you think it’s because our society has conditioned us to choose careers in the most impractical way possible.

If you choose a career based on what makes you MONEY and not what will drive your PASSION – you’re setting yourself up for misery.

Sooo...How do we break this pattern?

Well first you have to understand the difference between a MEANS goal and an END goal. In fact many people mistake a MEANS GOAL with an END GOAL.

Sooo.. Get to Know The Difference Between  MEANS Goals and END Goals.

Wouldn´t you agree that we tend to pick CAREERS, which are MEANS goals. Instead we need to be picking an IDEAL LIF, which is the END GOAL.

How are you going to do this? Well...Decide On Your Dream Life... The trick is to not pick a CAREER. Instead you want to decide on the KIND of LIFE you want to LEAD.

Ask yourself some questions. What KIND of house do I want to live in? WHERE do I want to live? Do I like TOWN, COUNTRY, BEACHES, MOUNTAINS OR RIVERS? What LANGUAGE do I want to speak? Do I want to work in an OFFICE, from HOME, or over the NET? What TYPE of people do I want to be around?

TRY THESE QUESTIONS....

Where would I live?
What would my house look like?
What time would I wake up?
What would I do in the morning?
What would I do in the first half of my day?
Who would I eat lunch and dinner with?
What would my friends be like?
What aremyr clients like?
What are my relationships like?
What do I like about each other?
What would I do for family time?
What is the relationship with my children like?
What do we appreciate about each other?
What would we talk about over dinner?
What would I do at night
Who would I do it with?
What would my thoughts be as I go to sleep?

Sooo.....Now Try and DECIDE On What You WANT To Do..

Actually, It’s not that easy. It might be easy to think of what you WANT but it’s a little HARDER finding out HOW to get there. However....” When you start asking the right questions, your mind will open up to inspirational sources and the necessary steps you need to take WILL start coming to you”. A good coach will help direct you...

Many of us dont understand the difference between genius and inspiration. Some people think it comes from random flashes of insight that hit you. But that’s not actually the case. Those "random insights" only come to you when you’ve actually given your subconscious mind a PROBLEM to SOLVE. In this case the PROBLEM is the kind of life you want to CREATE and how you are going to get yourself there!

When you start thinking in this way.... you’ll start finding shortcuts. For instance,quicker, more EFFICIENT ways to get to your dream life. You may then find that struggling as an underpaid lawyer or junior accountant or tax collector or low level architect for years and years while waiting for the next salary rise will probably NOT be the path to your END vision.

SOOO.. Why not Follow your Inspiration And Take Action?

How would you feel about perhaps taking the plunge and instead pursue your PASSIONS...for instance... Reading, writing, travel, building websites., writing music, studying personal growth and meditating to help you discover your true passions.

At first you might struggle....  Or spend a few years not earning as much as you had hoped. You might watch as many of your friends who were graduates or lawyers or programmers get good jobs and start ‘proud careers’. But following your PASSION WILL get you somewhere. You will end up perhaps running a company of your own and having A CLEAR END VISION IN MIND OF THE LIFE YOU WANT TO CREATE!

TRY not to sit down and decide you are going to build a business. Instead think about what kind of life you want to lead and the inspiration will come that will help you CREATE that life. The BEST ideas for getting clients. The BEST models for marketing your talents. The BEST people in your life.  And then.....take action. Try and listen to your gut instincts and ideas and PURSUE the opportunities that come your way. This is how you build a LIFE. Put the “career” part to one side!

Sooo.... if you’re wondering what to do with your life - maybe you’ve just graduated or perhaps you’re leaving a 15 -year career.....think about your END goals and not your MEANS goals. Then when you´ve worked out your END goal, follow it up with ACTION and Create Time For Your Life...

Thursday 9 June 2011

Should Happiness be a DESTINATION?

Some thoughts on "happiness...... "

1. Which one of these quotes sums up how YOU have viewed happiness most of your life?


 a)"If mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy." Unknown


b)"The thing that counts most in the pursuit of happiness is choosing the right companion."
Unknown

c)"Remember, happiness doesn't depend upon who you ARE or what you HAVE, it depends solely
upon what you THINK." Dale Carnegie


d)"Happiness is when what you THINK, what you SAY, and what you DO are in harmony." Mahatma
Gandhi


2. 
 Which one of these quotes would your Mum OR Dad have said sums up your view on life?


 a)"If mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy." Unknown


b)"The thing that counts most in the pursuit of happiness is choosing the right companion."
Unknown


c)"Remember, happiness doesn't depend upon who you ARE or what you HAVE, it depends solely
on what you THINK." Dale Carnegie


d)"Happiness is when what you THINK, what you SAY, and what you DO are in harmony."
MahatmaGandhi


 3. Which one of these quotes would your BEST FRIEND say sums up your view on life?


 a)"If mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy." Unknown


 b)"The thing that counts most in the pursuit of happiness is choosing the right
companion." Unknown


c)"Remember, happiness doesn't depend upon who you ARE or what you HAVE, it depends solely
upon what you THINK." Dale Carnegie


d)"Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony."
Mahatma Gandhi

Was your answer the same for all 3 questions?

Read them over again and really THINK about what they all are saying......

If your answers VARIED, then you probably find it difficult at times to maintain a state of harmony and balance.....



If your answer was the SAME from all three "perspectives" that's good - you're consistent. (But it's only GREAT if you picked the "right" one...)

Sooooo...Remember....”Happiness is NOT a destination....it s a way of life.....”



Wednesday 1 June 2011

YOU ARE A WORK IN PROGRESS!

How would you feel if I suggested that we live on a media roundabout,on which we are constantly being fed information such as.....this is good for you, this is bad for you.....try x and y will happen......go here ....don´ t go there....... watch this...listen to to that.....read this....don´t read this......study this......don´t study that.....eat this...don´t eat that....wear this......dont wear that....the list is ENDLESS and I could go on and on...

Would you agree that this could give us ALL hang ups! I imagine we realise DEEP DOWN that everything we read in the press, watch on the television or listen to on the radio is normally all down to a marketing campaign that someone´ s come up with. They probably do this in order to either make us spend money on their products or services or conform to their values.

However the issue is not that we should fall for this propaganda, it´s that we should constantly be reminding ourselves that NO ONE has the right to criticise, judge or disrespect us....even by IMPLICATION!

May I suggest to you that we are ALL a work in progress!

Imagine choosing NOT to read all the fashion articles which imply that we are too fat, too thin, have the wrong style of hair......How would you feel about choosing NOT to watch the news which mostly only feeds us depressing stories about what s happening in the world - or choosing to swtIch off from the documentaries about air disasters or health problems!!

Wouldn't it be great to watch, read and listen ONLY to things which make us feel FANTASTIC and to commit to doing things which only make us feel GREAT. Don´t you agree we should give ourselves loads of CREDIT for just being how we are!!

Sooo....try and visualise that we are all MAGNETS!! If we took a magnet and made it look as ugly as we could....that magnet wouldn't repel anything would it? It would still keep ATTRACTING the things its supposed to....you see changing the OUTSIDE of the magnet doesn´t actually change the INSIDE of it!! It s what´ s INSIDE of us that attracts others to us!!

That s the same for you, me and anyone we meet!! Sooo.... let s give ourselves a chill pill!! Let s give ourselves a a break! Lets decide to to be content with who we are as an individual. Let´s focus on the inner us! That is what matters....knowing who you are, what your values are and being true to them!

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