You may be one of the very few people who has EVERYTHING in place in your life...the most wonderful parents - still alive and living near you..your close friends from school or college round the corner...helpful neighbours...brilliant work colleagues that you can relate to and really get along with and be yourself....inspired, calm, caring children and relatives who are always there for you at the drop of the hat...a loving, nurturing relationship with your soulmate.... If you have all of these or indeed ANY of these..YOU are very fortunate..because in this day and age it is getting harder and harder to surround ourselves with a soulful community!
This is for many different reasons...Divorce, fall-outs with siblings, loved ones passing away or just feeling that you are constantly having the "life sucked out of you" by some people who are in your life at the moment!!!
However, if you pick your own "TEAM" to become intimate with and you invest the time and energy in THESE relationships, then I GUARANTEE you will feel far more "connected" with yourself and the immediate world around you.
It could be as simple as getting your three oldest and closest friends together for dinner once a month or arranging a regular game of golf with three special people that you can open up to and communicate with on an honest, caring and non superficial level! It could mean making the effort to call the people in your "soulful community" once a week...really making the effort to connect with them, help them, inspire them and hopefully open up to them yourselves.
If YOU are not fortunate at the moment to have those certain people around you due to changing cirumstances in your life...then it is up to YOU to CREATE your own community. Work hard at finding the members of YOUR team and you will reap the benefits for yourself and hopefully, help THEM in the process..
We ALL have a growing need for closer relationships these days.. this is because:
a) We communicate so much nowadays via email and the internet
b) Our places of work which used to be a place of "community" for many has changed - with many redundancies and re-organisations in companies, people find themselves looking to find jobs in a new way. Lots more people work from home and therefore in isolation.
c) Workers are working even longer hours which leads to people generally having less time for each other.
Ask yourself this question "If you had an extra hour each day, what would you want to do with it"? Many of you will say.. "I'd spend more time with family and friends.."
Don't wish to sound depressing.. but when we come to the end of our lives, what will we want other people to remember MOST about us? How much money we made? What a successful career we had? What education we received? Unlikely... It is more likely that you will want others to remember how much "time you had for them"...and you YOURSELF will feel GRATEFUL that you had the chance to share your life with the people you love and respect.. You will want to have loved and connected in a way that leaves no room for regret.
If we don't have a "connected" feeling with someone, then it can make us take our relationships for granted. We basically cant MISS what we DONT have!! When we experience warmth and happiness in our relationships with others, then need for an even BIGGER soulful community takes priority and we CREATE THE TIME to build it NATURALLY.
Ideally we can always turn to those in our "special family" to help us overcome FEAR, see the TRUTH in ourselves and give us the SAFETY and SECURITY for us to grow and evolve. EVERYONE yearns for this in some way...however MOST of us don't like to ADMIT it!!! It's as if we think there is something shameful about wanting and needing to be cared for and loved!!
Sooo.. How Do You Find the Types of Relationships that CAN SUCK THE ENERGY OUT OF YOU and How do you find the TYPES OF RELATIONSHIPS to INSPIRE you?
TOMORROW I will give you the tools to help you you find this out and help you to CREATE your own "NURTURING FAMILY"!
In the meantime...think about some people in your life at the moment.. and ask yourself the following questions..
Am i able to be myself around them?
Do I feel they accept me for who i am?
Is there an even "give and take" exchange of energy?
Do we roughly share the same values and integrity?
Is this friend/relative committed to our relationship?
Does this person genuinely celebrate my success?
Do I feel great about myself when I am with this person?
FINGERS CROSSED THAT YOU DON'T FIND THAT THE ONLY PERSON WHO TICKS ALL THE ABOVE BOXES IS IN FACT YOUR DOG!!!
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